Category Archives: Gratitude

Celebrating 50 Years of Grace!

It’s just near midnight at the end of my fiftieth birthday and the house is quiet. The big 50! It was a day of great rejoicing for me – not because of huge birthday celebrations and parties, nor because of outlandishly expensive gifts, and definitely not because we got to get away on a vacation to celebrate this special day! None of that happened, yet, it was out of this world amazing to me!

I am extremely grateful to my loving Heavenly Father who has poured His love on me over the past five decades of my life. These verses summarize why I am overwhelmed!

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before Him. In love He predestined us for adoption to Himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of His will, to the praise of His glorious grace, with which He has blessed us in the Beloved. In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of His grace, which He lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of His will, according to His purpose, which He set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in Him, things in heaven and things on earth. In Him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will, so that we who were the first to hope in Christ might be to the praise of His glory. In Him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in Him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it, to the praise of His glory. Ephesians 1:3-14

I started the day with an extra special treat – going to the Jon Ric spa to get a facial and massage with all three of my beautiful daughters. This is extremely unusual for me as I almost never go to a spa – I’ve probably gone twice in my entire life and only in Bangalore, not once in the US! It was a surprise gift to me from the “No Way” Refresh Conference fairies and it arrived right around my birthday! It touched my heart because the lovely folks at this newly opened spa had donated their time and effort to encourage foster and adoptive moms like me. My daughters were obviously thrilled and sharing this experience with them was such fun! I left feeling so refreshed! Just grateful!


Soon after that, I got to go and join other friends in helping a dear family setup their home for their son’s First Holy Communion celebration! This group of friends from our Grow Group have become treasured brothers and sisters over the past 2 1/2 years. Each one bends over backwards to help and care for the others. We saw them pour out their love on us at our son’s wedding and today we all got a chance to do the same for this family. The place was transformed into a beautiful party house. The planning, the chatter, the prayers, the laughter, the fun, and the joy of being with these servants of God brought much gratitude to my heart. We are praying much for their son who steps into this important step of faith tomorrow and we rejoice with them!


And then, the clincher of my day was a surprise family birthday party executed with so much joy and enthusiasm by my precious children and parents. It was amazing to see the joy and excitement on all their faces as they told my husband me how they had planned and prepped for the event all week, yet managed to keep it a secret! They are all gifted in a different ways and we could see that each one wanted to out do the other in good works for the benefit of all. Birthdays have always been extremely painful for our family as I had mentioned in this post. I am so humbled by the love of both generations we are sandwiched by. They worked in such unity of spirit as they shopped and decorated, cooked and cleaned, bought gifts and got beautiful cards – all this to celebrate my husband’s and my life (his birthday is four days before mine – but he is older and wiser!). They truly made it a memorable day for me and for us all! Each one shared how they were grateful and wanted to give back in love! My heart was so touched by their sacrifices and love! It’s a rare gift in an adoptive family! Their loving acts of service brought overflowing gratitude to God in my heart for without Him, this would not be possible!


Seeing my parents enjoy their grandchildren brought many smiles to my heart. All four children here in WA, love their grandparents and willingly serve them. Thatha and Pattima will do anything for the grand kids. There were smiles all around as we prayed and played a quiz they had made up on my life! It brought back memories of the joys of yester years with my own beloved grandparents. I know what a gift of grace it is to be able to celebrate with three generations together. Such gratitude in my heart!

I am also so very grateful to every person who sent me wishes, encouraging notes, prayers, and calls from around the world. It is so overwhelming to see the world connected this way. Most of them didn’t have to but they chose to, out of love – a good gift from a loving Father! He has allowed me to live in an age of such global connectivity – mind blowing but amazing!


As I sit on my bed tonight, tears of gratitude pour down as my heart overflows with praise at the awesomeness of God! We have had so many years of brokenness, pain, sorrow and suffering – days when I have cried out unable to even articulate the pain and loneliness of the journey, days when I have felt abandoned by everyone, even God. Yet today, God gifted me a day of thanksgiving and joy! Thank you Lord for doing Your work of grace in my life and in the lives of my family and friends around me. May You alone be praised! I give You thanks, I give You glory!

Bless the Lord, O my soul and all that is within me, bless His holy name! Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.  Psalm 103:1-5

Lord, bless each person who has made a difference in my life over the past 50 years. Please, give them the greatest blessing of all – knowing You and becoming Your very own Son or Daughter just as You have blessed me!

Grateful for 10 Years in WA (2014)

Ten years ago this week our family moved across the country in a HUGE step of faith from New Jersey to Washington state. We had lived on the east coast (NY and NJ) from the time of Peter and my arrival to the US 9 years prior to that. We were struggling to help Sandeep who was reeling from his pre-adoption childhood trauma. Peter was working and commuting long hours in NY and was unable to spend much time with our kids. I had made the hard decision 5 years before that to surrender my work life at Merck-Medco in obedience to God to stay home with the kids and now Peter was being called by God to surrender his career, to move down from Executive Management to a much lower job at less than half the pay at Microsoft to care for the kids. Sandeep had stayed with my Uncle Sekar Durairaj’s family in CA the year we moved – a huge blessing. So, it was just Peter, Sneha Ruth and me here on a cold, snowy January at the temporary MS housing in Bellevue! Thank you Sydneys for welcoming Peter here!

We look back at the many joys and sorrows, the many blessings and hardships over the past 10 years – all we can say is “May Jesus’ name be glorified through it all – for we are learning to trust in Him and to believe!” Romans 8:28 We had the unexpected little blessing Sarah Rachna join our family that year – a long awaited gift! With that came the blessing of Thatha/Pattima and Palamma who came to join us here in WA. We are very grateful for their love, help and presence in our lives! They had sacrificially retired early and moved from St. Louis, MO to Bellevue, WA just so they could help support us with our struggling children.

Loneliness, suffering, sacrifice and trials have been a huge part of our journey – but we would not have learned to depend on Jesus if not for them! This is our goal for 2014 “Count it all joy…when you meet trials fof various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” So, we thank God for His grace and salvation…..we thank God for sustaining our family over the past 10 years……we thank God for those who have loved us well in our struggles…….we thank God for our churches and fellowships……we thank God for virtual schools and colleges……we thank God for the many opportunities He has given our children and us……we also thank Him for the loneliness, the pain, the sorrows, etc. which have been many……Thank you to our family members who have taken the time to understand our difficult journey and who have encouraged our hearts through your words, acts of love and presence in our lives over the years. Thank you to our NJ friends who have encouraged our hearts over the years and who have continued keeping in touch. Thank you to our dear church friends at Westminster Chapel who welcomed us, faithfully prayed for us and befriended us over the years here. Thank you to TCF and ICF friends we have made along the way. Thank you to Peter and Sandeep’s jobs work colleagues – Peter has had the privilege of working from home the past 4 1/2 years and Sandeep works 5 minutes from home the past 1 1/2years (huge blessings). We have enjoyed meeting many new friends through the education community and in our wonderful neighborhood too! Thank you to the many FaceBook friends who have sent us words of encouragement. We are grateful for our new church family Mars Hill Church too! A special thank you to the rare, amazing individuals who have spoken into and shown godly love to Sandeep and Ruth Sneha as they have tried to make sense of their losses and brokenness – you have been Jesus’ heart, hands and feet to them! May Jesus bless each one of you our dear friends and family in a new and powerful way this new year revealing more of His love, grace, peace and joy to you! We thank God for each one of you! We stand ONLY by the grace of God……that’s the only hope we can give to anyone out there who is struggling with difficulties in life – God loves you and has a wonderful, eternal plan for you just like He has for us even when we could not see beyond the next moment when we walked in deep valleys. Our kids survive and thrive because He is holding on to them when they can’t. Its still often very hard but He has promised to continue the good work He has begun in each of our lives and will be faithful to complete when we meet Him in heaven one day!” — in Olympia, Washington.